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how to deal with self centered people

self centered people, are people who are unable to face reality for what it really is. They love living in their own little universe, and while doing that, hurt everyone else around them, and claim that they have every right to do so. She's not the first one to do that to me. And I've dealt with people like these before. People of this category is not worth my time, not even a second. Usually, they will play the "I'm not you, you cant look at me with your own standard" card when you try to give them advice, instead of taking what they learn. There is no other way to learn in this world than to take advice from someone else WITHOUT assuming that they dont know about you. If you're gonna use that assumption, you'll never move anywhere. They want to believe that they are so perfect, when they're only one step below than the terrorists who kill innocent lives so that the world will be a more "perfect" place for them. The terrorists are taking actions to achieve their own little fake reality, and these people are not doing that. I've met quite a number of people like that, and used to call around 4-5 of them as my friends. I dont like to live in a fantasy world where my ass gets polished by my friends, and I polish my friend's ass and flame people who flame them when they are clearly in the wrong. It's just not real. I dont like it. And because of that I dont like to polish my friend's butts either. I'm someone who likes to get to the point, if the direct way dosent work, I'll use the alternative route. 

But well, these people are doing pretty well on their own, so I wish them the best, and that they would be able to block off anyone else who would give them advice, their mentors, their true friends, their parents, their teachers -- and that they'd gather enough lip service and shoe polishing friends to nurse their fragile ego, that will leave them once shit happens. Then we will see where they go.

 A wise man once said, fools who think that they are wise are fools indeed, but fools who at least realize they're fools are wise indeed. This addage shows that as long as we're aware of our shortcomings, we're not fools any longer. But if we're complacent with our shortcomings and assume that we're perfect and okay, there is where the problem kicks in. Because in reality you're not, and if someone accidentally breaks that fragile shell of yours, you'll become angry because you know that the person who did so is one step above you. I've been thru that stage and dealt with that kind of situation before. Many, many times. There is always something that needs to be improved and its a neverending process. People are imperfect creatures, yet they're very, very weak-minded at the same time. Humans will always need something to cling on, be it their ego, God, friends, parents, texts, teachings, philosophies, ideologies, etc...it cannot be stopped. It's part and parcel of the package that we ordered, which is being human. Unless you are able to ditch off every anchor, you'll find perfection, which is currently impossible for many people around. So in that sense, I dont hate or diss self-centered people because its only natural.

I understand this aspect of that when it comes to humans, and because of that I respect my friend's inperfections, but at the same time I dont polish their butts whenever shit happens and they "need advice" or "need help" in a concious or unconcious way. And clearly, self centered people are not worth my attention. And I fail to learn that lesson again and again. I'm an idiot.

So now, I'm writing this guide for myself:

How to deal with self-centered people:

Symptoms:
Self centered people will try their best to reject any ideas and any advice that you persent them. They will be afraid to accept reality and face it. Also they have very fragile egos because they know that in reality they are nothing, and they also have a harem of friends that lick their boots, polish their ass and perform lip service.

Solution:
Self centered people make up around 60% of the world, which makes it a stupid thing to avoid them. Instead, once one is identified, keep a distance from them. Talk to them, but nothing substantial because it will be a complete waste of time. This way, you wont  have to stoop that low to polish their ass and yet not find trouble with these people. These people are clearly not worth anyone's time in changing, and probally all of their friends know about this and have stopped trying. Also, try to understand the situation they are in and be a little compassionate. But dont help because these people cannot be.

And I guess thats the end of the tutorial